July 10, 2008

And Me

I'm seeing this phrase used more and more.

When I was at school, my teachers made a point of highlighting that this was lazy English, and that the correct phrase was "and I", but it all really depends on the context of the sentence.

For example:

"My friend and I went to a party last night" is correct.
"My friend and me went to a party last night" is wrong.

On the other hand:

"John invited my wife and me to the party" is correct.
"John invited my wife and I to the party" is wrong.

The basic rule that applies to this form of grammatical correctness is this:

I am the subject of the sentence, but the object of the sentence is me.


Gail said...

Thank you, that one bugs me too... lazy is not knowing the difference and defaulting to "and I"

Anonymous said...

How funny - a friend of mine just blogged about this last week too - a few days before you in fact! (check it out: http://pseudotherapy.com/2008/07/07/not-i-me-me-me-me/)

(Suze - stillbaking.ca/blog)

Capn John said...

The way it was explained to me on how to check for correctness is to remove the other person associated with 'me'.

(My wife and) I went to a party last night.

Peter invited (my wife and) me to his party.

SwissToni said...


few things irritate me more than being knee-jerk corrected when I use this particular part of speech correctly. When it happens, I immediately embark on a rant telling them how this particular part of speech works. Most people are somewhat taken aback, and I'm also pretty sure that they just think I'm wrong.

ST - fighting grammatical ignorance since 1974

(congrats on job and house, btw)