July 10, 2008

And Me

I'm seeing this phrase used more and more.

When I was at school, my teachers made a point of highlighting that this was lazy English, and that the correct phrase was "and I", but it all really depends on the context of the sentence.

For example:

"My friend and I went to a party last night" is correct.
"My friend and me went to a party last night" is wrong.

On the other hand:

"John invited my wife and me to the party" is correct.
"John invited my wife and I to the party" is wrong.

The basic rule that applies to this form of grammatical correctness is this:

I am the subject of the sentence, but the object of the sentence is me.

4 comments:

Gail said...

Thank you, that one bugs me too... lazy is not knowing the difference and defaulting to "and I"

Anonymous said...

How funny - a friend of mine just blogged about this last week too - a few days before you in fact! (check it out: http://pseudotherapy.com/2008/07/07/not-i-me-me-me-me/)

(Suze - stillbaking.ca/blog)

Capn John said...

The way it was explained to me on how to check for correctness is to remove the other person associated with 'me'.

(My wife and) I went to a party last night.

Peter invited (my wife and) me to his party.

SwissToni said...

hello.

few things irritate me more than being knee-jerk corrected when I use this particular part of speech correctly. When it happens, I immediately embark on a rant telling them how this particular part of speech works. Most people are somewhat taken aback, and I'm also pretty sure that they just think I'm wrong.

ST - fighting grammatical ignorance since 1974

(congrats on job and house, btw)